Blogging, Family life

Secretly blogging or telling everyone?

I’ve never liked people I know reading my writing. So I started secretly blogging.

I didn’t even tell my husband what I was doing until I’d posted a few entries! While I was just talking about myself and the rabbits, it didn’t really matter.

And then I started writing about my pregnancy, because, well, it’s a pretty big topic in my life right now. I thought he deserved to know about that, because it’s also a pretty big deal to him. Any decisions about keeping baby in or out of the online world deserve to be jointly taken by both of us.

I’m glad I told him because he’s excited about it too. He likes to know how many pageviews we’ve had. When we made our first penny through AdSense it was great to have someone to be excited with!

But other than that, I’ve not told anyone else in my offline world about this blog yet.

I’m differentiating here between blogging secretly and blogging anonymously. I’m hardly blogging anonymously over here – you’ve got my name and the rabbits’ names, at least one of which is pretty unusual. People I know might find it if they know my Twitter handle. Or, I suppose, if they’re just browsing through the millions of blogs in this world and happen to recognise a picture. But I’m not directing them here.

I know lots of people tell everyone they know about their blog. Here are the pros and cons as I see them:

Reasons for telling everyone

  1. More pageviews. They’re always important. Well, hopefully they’d rise, anyway! It would probably feel pretty bad if I told everyone about my blog and then I didn’t see any increase in traffic. But I also don’t want people to feel that they have to read it. I feel a bit weird even posting too much about it on Twitter or the Facebook pages I use that are relevant – it’s a bit too “Look at me!” for my liking sometimes.
  2. Using the blog as a way of keeping in touch or keeping people updated. I have quite a few family members and friends who I don’t see very often, and I suppose the blog could be a good tool there, particularly when baby comes. However, I think I prefer the idea of using Facebook for this – I keep a pretty small friends list, and I prefer the idea of having differing levels of privacy.
  3. Maybe being able to connect with other bloggers. Maybe everyone I know is secretly blogging! We could talk about it and compare notes and be blogging buddies. It’s unlikely, though.

Reasons for secretly blogging

  1. I’m shy! I’d feel a bit awkward telling people about the blog – I even felt a bit weird telling my husband!
  2. I can talk with a bit more freedom. Yes, other people might still find it, but it’s not like I’m handing them a direct link to that time I talked about feeling low during pregnancy, for example. There’s a lot of judgement out there, and sometimes I don’t want that from people I know in person.
  3. There’s still a bit of stigma about a lot of activities online, which is crazy. Billions of people use Facebook these days and you can’t get by without an email address, but for some reason, there are still people who’ll look at you funny if you admit that you have a hobby that involves the internet.
  4. Speaking of stigma, self-promotion! I’m not trying to blog because I think I’m so great or I have amazing things to say that will change the world. (Barbara totally thinks this, though.) I’m doing it because I enjoy writing. Secretly blogging means that if people are judging me, well, they’re not people I know in real life and it doesn’t matter as much.

Maybe I just worry too much about what other people think! But I can’t be the only one who’s had this dilemma. What was your decision in the end?

(Also, I know Barbara usually blogs on Wednesdays – she’s been ever so busy but promises to be back next week!)

2 thoughts on “Secretly blogging or telling everyone?

  1. You may be secretly blogging, but I am secretly reading ;). I read not only Barbara’s entries (that make me laugh) but also your entries. I feel like the online world is so huge and topics discussed are superfical. I miss communicating with people and knowing there is more going on in their lives then what they ate for dinner.
    So please, even though I am secretly reading, don’t stop!

    1. Yay, thank you for reading! I know what you mean – it feels like in the past people used to talk more seriously online, whereas now it’s all memes and everything is so short. Maybe I’m just looking in the wrong places these days. I’m definitely planning to continue!

      Barbara was far too busy to blog this week, she told me. Serious hay eating and flopping to do! (She does the most dramatic flops, I love them.) I’ll make sure to sit with her and get her to write something up next week though – she doesn’t get to have too much time off!

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